I've noticed something more and more lately. A shift in people's thoughts, opinions and needs. A shift that is GREAT and long overdue! Sometimes I wonder if I am the only one who thinks a certain way...but then I am reminded through people's personal blogs or articles I read that there are other people out there just like me who are ready for a positive change in this world.
A world that is less judgmental. A world where we do not constantly compare ourselves to others. A world where we do not feel this need to be this PERFECT PERSON. I for one am thrilled with where this world is evolving into- I finally feel like I can be myself, mistakes and all! It is such a liberating feeling to be able to be myself and make no apologies for who I am. (I've apologized more in my life for being me than I ever realized.)
I know we hear it all the time: just be yourself. But I mean, WHO really follows this? I sure hope more people out there are truly being their authentic selves. It is when we are our authentic selves that people truly love us for who we are. It is when we share our mistakes, regrets, and shame that we really connect with others. For some reason, we have been taught to hide these things but what does that do for us? It causes extreme inner turmoil and pain because you are essentially hiding a part of what makes you who you are and what has shaped you. That is not being fair to yourself either. No one should have to hide their pain and struggles from the world.
Here are a few common statements people make that should be banned from our vocabulary.
*"Sorry, my house is a mess!" or "Please excuse the mess!" WHO REALLY CARES? If you go into someone's home and judge them by their mess, well , that's just ridiculous. We all have jobs, kids, errands, ailing family members or friends, etc., etc. so it makes ABSOLUTELY PERFECT FUCKING SENSE for your house to be a complete disarray! Stop apologizing for living life. :)
*Any statement where you are criticizing your body or looks. As Brandy says, we must stop the madness! (read her blog- it is freaking fantastic! http://icanthearmyselfdrink.com/2014/04/25/you-are-not-alone/) So we aren't perfect huh? Guess what?! No one is! Stop beating yourself up. Love all your imperfections because they make you who you are! I remember one day I was talking to my friend Keisha and I told her if I could change one thing I would get the bump taken out of my nose. She looked appalled- and then started crying! I thought, WTF? She told me not to do it and that she loved my nose! She was right.... I now love my nose because it makes me who I am. (Thanks Keisha! XO)
*Any statement that starts out with "I don't deserve this..." OR EVEN "I deserved the way they treated me." All I can say is are you kidding me? We have got to STOP being SO HARD on ourselves. Beating ourselves up in any kind of way has got to stop. If we weren't so hard on ourselves, maybe we wouldn't be so critical of others, you know? Food for thought...
I could go on, but I will stop for now. And hey, I still make these statements whether I like it or not. The difference for me now is AWARENESS. I am now aware of when I have negative self-talk or find myself judging someone or something. And then I can nip that shit in the bud! Eventually, with awareness, I will stop these thoughts completely. I can't wait for that day. Each day gets better and it can for you too. It all starts from within.
Until next time....XOXO Mel
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